We did it!
This is part of the reason why I’ve been almost dead on my blog for the past… month maybe?. My children and I have moved into a much bigger home and naturally things got a little crazy! We’ve gone from a tiny two bedroom ground floor flat to a huge (in my children’s eyes) four bedroom house and I’ll just say that moving is the single most stressful experience of my life.
W h y T h e M o v e?
The simple answer is, my children. For years now we’ve been in a two bedroom flat and even after we went from a family of five to a family of four, it still was cramped and we had no privacy or our own space. Gradually my son turned 11 and according to the council and their tenancy agreement it’s actually illegal for my 11 year old son to share a bedroom with his 9 year old sister, and along with the fact that during lockdown the council lovingly closed their housing list despite the fact that you could view and move home.
We essentially are stuck.
During first lockdown last year, not only was I homeschooling the children but I also decided to make a huge leap and ask around for 3 bedroom houses who possibly would accept universal credit tenants, its safe to say I have had very little luck with this. I have a select distance that I could look at given that the children’s school needed to be in walking distance as my driving lessons went out the window as well.
I cannot describe how anxious all of it felt but I knew that it was needed, Feeling extremely let down and ignored by the council even when the housing list finally reopened and closed again, I had completely given up hoping for something via them.
M A Y 2 0 2 1
After spending what felt like forever applying for homes through facebook I once again started to give up and feel hopeless, No one was responding or let alone accepting, there is a new law now where estate agents cannot turn down people on benefits but that doesn’t stop people from turning you down. One day while at Neils house I got a call that was unexpected, I had been offered a house that the previous week took a chance on and applied for, it was a lovely four bedroom house and the estate agents called me back. The only issue I had was finding a guarantee but that all got sorted and it wasn’t long before we went to go look at the house, place a bid and within a few days, it was mine!
Now lets just say, May and June have been so busy, with a mixture of getting the children to and from school, finding time to move things over to the new house and endless boxes, my family finally moved into our new home on the 26th May. But with one new home comes cleaning out the old one, which was a job for mum and I and we had so much to clear out, As the new home was privately rented it already had an oven, fridge and washing machine so we needed to find somewhere to put these other items. With the help from Neil the old flat was finally cleared out on the 19th June and I cannot tell you how relieved that its all done.
A B E T T E R F U T U R E
This wasn’t a choice I made on impulse, I had plenty of time to think everything through, I did all my research, I checked and checked again to make sure that I wasn’t doing something that could be stupid. Being left with no choice but to do this to benefit my children, they are after all my highest priority, I told many people when I was first going through the paperwork that the pro’s and cons weigh the same, yes it would be expensive but my children need this, they need to be out of that flat that they should’ve been out of years ago, but that wasn’t my fault, it was someone else. However now I can look to the future with them in our new home and hopefully in a few years time get a house with Neil.
Moving has created peace in my family, there is no more arguments, everyone has their own space and my mental health has improved too. I am so insanely grateful for my family for their support and help through all of this I honestly couldnt do it without them.
Heres to a new and better future in our brand new home.